Men are narrow minded, insecure if they expose Women
In India for a Women Chastity is a virtue, but now its old fashioned and thing of a past. As per study 77% Indian women have pre-marital sex. For women if she go out and say she is available, she will find any type of men as she wanted. And same if Man says he is available he will not find any Women as most of the Indian men are virgins till their marriage.
I was talking to a Girl, well-educated and from well to do family. We were talking anything openly, as we are drawing closer. She was always referring some boy from her college days, then I found out she was having relation with him.
As I am little reserve and conservative type, as I have never had sex before marriage so I was defending both partners should be same. But she was casual about sex, she was like I liked that boy so I had sex.
Once I asked her. Will you tell if a proposal comes that you had sex?
She said NO
I asked Why Not? You dare to have sex but now you are not bold enough to say it? Why do you want to hide and ruin a man's life if he never had sex and if he is looking for a Virgin Girl?
She gave me big lecture.
Sex before marriage among men is fun, but for women it is something which could cost lot more than a matrimonial prospect if she admit she had sex. I am not looking for a Virgin boy, if he stayed virgin then that's a good thing, but I will not disclose I had sex.
So I asked her, you mean to say you want to start your marriage on a lie, hiding it.
Indian men are insecure and narrow minded, many men are accepting the partner with a past, it may or may not bother many men that their brides aren't virgins, and it matters. And for the sake of matrimonial harmony, many women choose to lie.
She was defending herself and trying to prove she is right.
I knew she will not admit that she has sex when getting married, and if man is conservative for sure she will be divorced. And there was no point arguing with her.
I said ending this argument.
Think if proposal comes and you tell him that you had sex and he is virgin and he replies to you after knowing you had pre-marital sex.
"AS WE BOTH AGREE TO MARRY AND YOU HAD SEX ALREADY, I NEVER HAD SEX BEFORE, I SAVED MYSELF FOR BIG DAY, LET ME HAVE SEX WITH 2/3 GIRLS THEN I WILL COME BACK TO YOU. THEN WE BOTH ARE EQUAL" WILL YOU MARRY ME."
she said I will not marry such guy.
That day onwards she stopped talking to me.
This is the real face of Indian women, they want to have all the Fun, and men have to forgive them, else they will call them narrow minded, Insecure. What they do is right men are wrong always.