After Sunday morning mass, I met a young man who had recently married just a month ago. I had attended his wedding—his wife is a pretty young woman from a nearby town.
I congratulated him and asked where his wife was. He replied softly, “She’s not well.” However, his sister, who stood nearby, quickly added, “She gets up late.”
I smiled politely and walked away, sensing that something wasn’t quite right.
Later, I heard from others in the community that the young woman was, in fact, in the habit of sleeping in and had little interest in household responsibilities. Her days, as described, were mostly spent chatting with friends, Lovers, watching TV, browsing Facebook, and creating content for Instagram and TikTok. I also learned that her elder sister, who is divorced and raising a child, receives maintenance from her former husband. Their father, a retired man, manages most of the housework while the elder sister handles the cooking. This environment, it seems, contributed to the younger daughter’s laid-back attitude.
There’s an unfortunate double standard in society. When a man is unemployed or trying hard to find a job, rumors quickly spread—calling him lazy or useless. But if a woman is not contributing to the household or financially supporting the home, very few raise any concerns. Managing a household or paying bills is rarely seen as her obligation.
This young man, I’m told, works abroad and will soon return overseas for his job. There’s a very real fear that he might end up sending all his hard-earned money to support a comfortable lifestyle for someone unwilling to contribute equally. Worse, if misled by family or legal advisors, the wife could potentially misuse laws like those related to dowry or domestic violence to demand large sums in maintenance.
It’s true that some women today are well aware of how the law tends to favor them in marital disputes. Unfortunately, a few exploit this advantage—not with the intent to build a strong family, but to pursue an easy life, free money, and social media validation. In such cases, they may even have multiple romantic involvements without social accountability.
This scenario is becoming increasingly common in today’s India.
Since dowry is legally prohibited, a woman or her family is under no obligation to provide anything to help her start her new household. However, in many cases, the woman may also choose not to cook, clean, work, or contribute financially. Some expect full domestic support, often pointing out that in their own homes, their father or others handled all chores. Over time, such expectations can grow—some may demand a separate house, refuse to live with in-laws, or insist that the husband send his parents to an old-age home. Unfortunately, this is becoming a common dynamic in many modern Indian households.
So, the question arises: who is responsible for raising individuals with such entitlement? Is it the family? The government? Or the laws that can sometimes be misused?
This is the outcome of aggressive feminist propaganda and lobbying. Many women push these agendas without realizing they’re ruining the future for their own sons, sons of her family members, brothers, and fathers. The talk of equality is one-sided—when it comes to women, it’s all about rights, with zero demand for responsibility. While the idea of equality is frequently promoted, equal responsibility is rarely demanded—especially when policies lean heavily toward appeasement of women rather than balance. Men are left to bear the burden, while the system bends over backward to appease women.